The concept of naked thinking is the product of my twenty-five years of helping my therapy and business clients apply the same principles of cognitive-behavioral therapy to solve their problems and become more effective in their lives. Each time a client brought an issue to me, I found that naked thinking showed itself to be the fastest and most effective way to overcome even the worst-case problem.
Naked thinking is thinking with the suffocating cloak of emotions stripped away. It isn’t that emotions are bad, but when it comes to sorting out difficulties or making decisions, emotions can change the way you think so dramatically you often can’t think at all, or what you do decide to do looks very different a short time later, once the emotion of the moment has passed. And, of course, the emotions of that moment always do pass, and that’s when you get a chance to evaluate what you said, did, or decided. In many cases, that means that you now have to deal with the outcome and it’s too late to undo what you’ve already done.
Whether it was helping people improve their relationships, be able to more confidently present themselves to bosses or groups, be better witnesses for legal procedures, or just have greater success overcoming anger, depression, or anxiety, these principles, applied in a less psychological and more practical context, yielded the best and fastest results.
Over time, it gradually became clear that the process was relatively the same and could be boiled down to specific steps to access naked thinking and live a life more by design than by chance. These steps coalesced into a process that can be taught, learned, and practiced, and they are presented here.
What makes this book different from others is that I use real-life examples and plain language to describe and illustrate exactly how to tame your emotions so you can focus your abilities and become more effective in decision making and implementation. While I do outline and explain these principles fully in such chapters as “The Perfect Principle” and “The Naked-Thinking Bully Barrier” and others, Naked Thinking isn’t meant to be a psychology book or even a psychology primer. Rather, the stories and exercises in Naked Thinking are meant to make these principles practical and relevant in almost any setting. And, perhaps most importantly, they include the critical elements of being immediately applicable, uncomplicated, and memorable. There is little value in knowing concepts or strategies if they are so complex or obscure you can’t use them when you need them.
Additionally, when you begin using these concepts and methods, you will find that you become better able to take on life’s challenges with a new sense of confidence. This greater sense of confidence frees you to be more open to new things and accepting of a broader array of experiences and relationships without fear. You’ll be better able to fight your depression or anxiety. You’ll be able to present your ideas more boldly and be a better leader, parent, or friend. In short, you will be better able to be the best you you already are.
Designed primarily as a step-by-step handbook to help ordinary people find a way to be happier and more effective in daily living, this book also can be effectively incorporated into psychology and social work, marriage therapy, leadership development, trial-witness preparation, management training, and other training programs. It can serve as a library or desk reference for professionals and nonprofessionals alike who wish to improve their own skills or those of others in focusing more and feeling less.
How to get the most from reading Naked Thinking
Naked Thinking is not a like a novel with a beginning and an ending with a plot in between. It is meant to be a learning experience that helps you develop a different approach to living; one that’s more centered with less stress and greater confidence. The best approach is to first read each piece quickly to get a ‘birds-eye’ view, then go back through slowly and actually do what is suggested. At the end of each chapter, I give you things to do or exercises to develop you skill at what was explained. Like anything new you learn, you will want to repeat these exercises often and in different settings so you become comfortable with them. As you do, you will gain a confidence and sense of self-efficacy that will change your life.
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